Emotional eating could be one of the most challenging and difficult things to overcome. It could take years or even decades for someone with this habit to get to where he/she needs to be. Love however, can bring an end to emotional eating and heal us from needing to “eat our emotions”. In this article we explore the relationship between our emotions, eating and how to solve emotional eating through love.
What is emotional eating?
The medical definition, according to popular medical site MedicineNet says “Emotional eating is the practice of consuming large quantities of food-usually “comfort” or junk foods-in response to feelings instead of hunger” they go on to say that “experts estimate that 75% of overeating is caused by emotions.”
In September 2018, days before his fifty-fourth birthday Jack Ma announced his intention to retire. Ma founded and built Alibaba Group Holding Ltd into a multi-billion dollar company, one of the largest in Asia. In 2013 Ma appointed CEO, Daniel Zhang while continuing to wield significant influence as Group Executive. Ma expressed his wishes to withdraw to his first passion namely teaching and has been increasingly involved in educational philanthropy. On the 10th September 2019, one year after announcing his retirement Ma will step down.
Ma is one of the most prominent business leaders to use the term LQ. As we study the man and the company he built, we see many similarities and parallels making Ma one the best examples of a high LQ leader. Given that this is his last year as steward of internet giant Alibaba Group, we list our favorite Jack Ma quotes and discuss how they relate to LQ.
Many of us are familiar with the popular Showtime television series Billions. The show gives us a glimpse into the world of high-stakes financial asset management. Wall Street hero/anti-hero Bobby Axelrod will stop at nothing to achieve his goals while his antagonist, Chuck Rhodes a U.S. Attorney fueled by righteous indignation (and political ambition) stoops just as low in order to crush his nemesis. Both the main characters are portrayed as ruthless, power-hungry and successful in large part due to their killer instincts.
While the series is a dramatization of real-life events and individuals, in reality business is often experienced as this kind of battleground, dog-eat-dog world where only the most ruthless survive.
In this article we examine the culture of business and the reasons business is so often seen as a battle. We discuss an alternative framework for operating in the world of commerce. We also highlight the many benefits of raising one’s love quotient and applying a heart-centered approach to business.
For many, the idea of being vulnerable can cause fear or anxiety and in our society there can be a tendency to view vulnerability as a weakness. In this article we will show you how vulnerability can actually be a strength. We will discuss how loving yourself completely and deeply can help you feel safe enough to allow yourself to become more vulnerable.
The tendency to see vulnerability as a weakness is rooted in a reptilian survival response in the brain. We commonly refer to this survival mechanism as the fight-or-flight response. Fear triggers this fight-or-flight mode in-which vulnerability would be considered less than useful. When we perceive something as a “threat” and we are operating from this place of fear, vulnerability is typically viewed as a weakness.
In ending the fight against life we shift our perspective from fighting against whatever it is we feel is attacking us to taking a stand for what we believe in. As we begin to infuse our bodies with love, it becomes easier to operate from the higher part of our brain know as the neocortex. In doing so, we begin to change our relationship with vulnerability. Vulnerability can now be more easily accessed. We become able to see it as a strength and it becomes something to embrace.
According to the Mayo Clinic the person you report to at work is more important to your health than your family doctor. Many of us are highly invested in our businesses, careers and jobs because we care about what we do. It is therefore natural to feel stressed when things don’t go well at work or in our businesses. However, when this type of stress in ongoing and gets worse over time, the impact it has on our health and relationships can be devastating.
What’s worse is that for many of us work related stress is a silent killer. It sneaks up on us. We don’t realize what a rut we’re in until it’s too late and one of the main reasons for this is that the bad habits and behaviors that lead to life-changing events such as death, divorce and illness have become normalized.
The modern workplace has become a breeding ground for bad habits leading to poor health and wellbeing for leaders, executives and employees alike. Some of the main issues are high stress/high conflict environments, micromanaging executives, unreasonably long work hours, a tendency to work after hours and work-related stress seeping into personal relationships.
John Bates was the co-founder and face of a company which had raised $80 million in capital. In 2001, when the dot-com bubble burst the company’s investors backed out leaving him and his workforce unemployed and devastated. Bates felt like a failure and carried tons of guilt and shame. Shortly thereafter he contracted Stevens-Johnson disease, an autoimmune disease that nearly destroyed his life.
In this interview with John Bates he tells us how he overcame this debilitating illness and discusses the impact that meditation combined with the ‘I love you’ practice had on his recovery. In this article we will discuss some of the most important takeaways from Bates’ story and discuss the effect love, and increasing ones LQ, can have on the body and on autoimmune health in general. But first, let’s look at what an autoimmune disease is…
There is a prevalence of fight energy all around us. Many people tend to automatically step into fight mode when any type of challenge comes their way. Or they may go after problems they see in the world or life ready to take on a fight. This can be seen on all levels; among individuals, within families and communities and between countries. This way of acting originates from the most basic and instinctive part of our brains and the prevailing paradigm that we have to fight against whatever we see as an obstacle or challenge.
As we evolve on a conscious level individually and as a society this is something that we can expand beyond and let go of. When we have created a solid relationship with our emotions and when we feel safe enough in our own body’s we realize that we don’t have to operate in this fight-or-flight response in everyday life. In this article I will show you that through loving ourselves and by increasing our LQ we can become free from this limited way of interacting with life.
Why is understanding the different aspects of self important to LQ and to love in general?
The core of LQ and why LQ is so significant is that while we are generally taught the importance of loving other people, we are not really taught or encouraged to love ourselves. When the topic of loving one’s self or self-love practices are discussed, we commonly hear objections and resistance towards this idea. “Oh, I already love myself” or “that’s selfish” are common themes.
Loving one’s self does not refer to loving our ego or our identity i.e. who we think we are or who we relate to as ourselves. It is important to understand that there are multiple aspects of self and it is equally important to highlight the aspect of self that we are directing our love towards, namely the inner child.
Trust is a key element in business and in business relationships. For leaders in business, understanding the relationship between love and trust will help us to accelerate the power of trust in our lives and our organizations.
High trust relationships take time to build but once these are in place things can move very quickly. When we are coming from a loving place, when we have a high LQ, trust can actually be developed much more quickly because our intent, who we are, can be felt and trusted.
Trust is one of the most elusive qualities of our time and yet it is one of the most crucial. Stephen R. Covey said that “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”
There are many benefits of a high LQincluding improved self awareness, emotional stability and being able to manage negative emotions in a healthy and empowered way. One benefit of a healthy LQ is improved learning ability and cognitive performance. In this article we will explore IQ and how, even though most aspects of one’s IQ are fixed, there are elements of intelligence which can be improved by increasing one’s LQ.
We will also show that one’s ability to learn is impacted by several factors, stress being a major consideration, and how LQ practices like meditation can be used to reduce stress and increase memory retention, cognitive function and concentration. We will also delve into the impact of kindness on how we learn and how we apply our abilities.